Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Golden Anniversaries


1. I and Me to WE
2. There are no sacred cows (talk about anything and everything)
3. No matter what treat eachother with respect. Treat the other person the way you would like to be treated
4. Take care of your body. Present yourself best to your partner. Take care of eachother (annual physicals)
5. Find the joy of return. Our resources, not mine or yours.
6. LOVING TOUCH. Frequent touches ...pats.... Being in love in more than saying
7. Onboarding. Doing and finding things are different and interesting. Passion/hobby/pranks/jokes

Simple Things Matter: 50 Simple Things You Can do to Enhance Your Relationship


1. Take long walks together.
2. Snuggle in the morning before you get out of bed.
3. Recognize kindness with a thank you.
4. Call when you are going to be late.
5. Share a good bottle of wine while watching a sunset.
6. Be generous with your time for each other.
7. Compliment your lover about something they did today that made them special.
8. Hold hands often.
9. Bring home flowers when it is not a special occasion.
10. Leave a sticky note on your lover’s wallet or purse telling them to come home safely to you because you love them so much.
11. Ask your spouse about their dreams and their dreams for your future together.
12. Open doors for each other.
13. Take a bike ride together, bringing a picnic lunch for a secluded spot along the way.
14. Walk your dog together.
15. Fix your lover breakfast in bed for no special reason.
16. Say “I love you” several times during each day.
17. Treat your lover with courtesy at all times.
18. Help clean off the table and do the dishes after dinner.
19. Compliment your lover’s cooking.
20. Tell one reason why your lover means so much to you.
21. Take your spouse to their favorite restaurant in the middle of the week.
22. Touch your mate 100 times a day.
23. Surprise your lover by bringing lunch when they least expects it.
24. Prepare meals together as often as you can.
25. Spend an evening listening to music and making a CD of your favorite songs together.
26. Never let things get stale. Upend expectancies and delight your lover.
27. Always point out the positive attributes of your lover, both at home and in public.
28. Give your spouse a massage or a back rub.
29. Look directly into your lover’s eye when you are having a conversation.
30. Be your lover’s best cheerleader for their accomplishments.
31. Plan a bubble bath together and see where it leads.
32. Go dancing together.
33. Talk about everything. No topic is too small or too big. There are no sacred cows.
34. Always demonstrate respect for each other in your words and in your actions.
35. Schedule your annual physicals on the same day.
36. Plan a week of healthy meals together with foods that you both enjoy.
37. Write your husband a love letter and leave it for him to find in his underwear drawer.
38. Sit down and go over the finances together before you pay the bills for the month.
39. Take your lover to a movie, putting your arm around them like you used to when you were dating.
40. Go for a boat ride, car ride or train ride that isn’t planned and doesn’t have an itinerary.
41. Write personal Valentine’s Day cards today even though it's not Valentine's Day.
42. Turn off the television and talk to each other.
43. Sing a song together and to each other.
44. Go to Disneyland—just the two of you.
45. Plant flowers together.
46. Share a tuna melt.
47. Kiss each other passionately.
48. Go to the zoo together.
49. Share a shower.
50. Sit in your porch swing and gaze at the stars.

Good One

Except GOD, everyone brings data to the table.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Four Ways to Lead a Successful Transformation - HBR

From HBR : Managing an organizational transformation, executives tell us, is like trying to change the wheels on a bike while you're riding it. You have to take your organization apart and put it back together in a new way, but you have to keep the business running at the same time. It's a lot to ask, and the senior leader bears much of the burden.

Being at the top of an organization makes you uniquely visible: consciously or not, you provide cues about what matters that everyone else will follow. When we were researching Beyond Performance, we found that little had been written about this crucial responsibility during a transformation. So we drew on our own involvement in scores of major change programs to identify the roles that only senior leaders can perform.

1. Make the transformation meaningful

Whether employees buy into a change effort can spell the difference between success and failure. Senior leaders tap into employees' energy by making the transformation personal and openly engaging them.

Successful leaders often allude to formative events in their own life to show their determination to overcome obstacles. When Andy Grove was CEO of Intel, he used his personal story of escaping Communist-controlled Hungary at the age of 20 to push the company to make bold decisions as they transformed into a giant in the semiconductor industry.

Connecting with people takes time and effort. Corrado Passera, CEO of Banca Intesa, traveled all of Italy to spread the bank's transformation story to its 60,000 employees. He told us, "You have to put your face in front of people if you want them to follow you."

2. Be the change you want to see the mindsets and behavior you want to see

When you're asking others to transform how they get work done, it's incredibly powerful for you to transform how you get work done as well.

After John Akehurst tackled underperformance at Woodside Petroleum, he admitted to us that "It took a lot of effort for me to recognize that I am responsible for the culture of the organization, and how dysfunctional my behavior was and what an impact it had on other people." Learning to be humble, to listen, and to trust intuition as well as analysis helped Akehurst and his team turn the business around.

Well-chosen symbolic actions can have an impact out of all proportion to their size. At Infosys, chairman N. R. Narayana Murthy habitually pays the difference between a single and a double hotel room when he takes his wife on business trips. He explained to us, "Credibility comes from eating one's own food before recommending it to others," an attitude that helped Murthy transform a company started with $250 in seed capital into a global leader in consulting and information technology.

3. Build a strong and committed top team

It's likely that not everyone on your team wants — or is able — to change. Ask yourself about each one: Does this individual know what they must do to make the transformation succeed? Is it clear what will happen if they don't get on board? Have I given them a chance to build the skills they need? Have I been modeling the target mindsets and behavior? If the answers are yes, swift action is warranted.

That's what happened at Seagate, the world's largest manufacturer of hard drives, during its transformation led by Steve Luczo: "We said, we will work as a team. So we needed to find out who was on the bus and who was not and to do it fast. I got rid of two top people in the first three to four months."

Taking tough decisions can have a surprisingly positive impact on the rest of the organization. High performers become more motivated, low performers opt out, and those in the middle realize they need to raise their game.

4. Relentlessly pursue impact

In a change effort where real value is at stake, there's no substitute for simply getting involved in the details. Kicking off a transformation is one thing, but sticking with it is what really counts.

Larry Bossidy, reflecting on leading a transformation of AlliedSignal, wrote, "Many people regard execution as detail work that's beneath the dignity of a business leader. That's wrong ... it's a leader's most important job." This means getting involved in the problem-solving on high value initiatives, making quick decisions when barriers appear, and staying on top of the numbers. We've learned that the adage "In God we trust, everyone else brings data to the table" fully applies during a transformation.

By playing these four roles, the most senior leader can greatly improve the odds of success for any organizational transformation.

Greatest Value

The ONLY ONE that i VALUE the most is LOYALTY. Without that a you are NOTHING.